Many boys are told that it is a sign of weakness to show emotions. They are told to “Man up” and “boys don’t cry”. Emotions are associated with women and a boy can’t be masculine when they act like women by crying.
Boys will be boys has come to include that men will be violent, instead of adventurous and getting dirty. Teaching boys and men it’s not okay to share emotions, can hinder them for the long run. Built up emotions can come out in forms of aggression and violence that can cause them to lash out at. They don’t know how to communicate well without emotions. Not having an outlet to express emotions can lead to substance abuse, stress, depression and unhealthy relationship patterns. Boys are taught to be dominant, be in control, avoid appearing weak, and to hide emotions.
Men are supposed to be the foundation for a family. They can’t be weak because when they are weak they can’t hold it together and be there for the emotional women in their lives. Many men can’t even handle a woman crying because they do not understand emotions. A man could distances himself in a relationship when he becomes overwhelmed with emotions.
Men and boys make up the highest fatal suicide rate, highest drug overdoses, and more likely to be a mass shooter. Without an outlet to express emotions they can become over whelming, so they turn to drugs or killing themselves and others. When boys do become emotional they get harassed and bullied by their peers.
I never want my son to think he can’t cry or share his emotions. I will teach him that he can always come to me if he has any problems. He will know he can still be masculine and have emotions. I am raising my son knowing one day he will be a husband and a father. He will need to know how to share his emotions in a healthy way.