There are so many dogs that need
new homes and families who have the homes and hearts to take them in. However
when the family already owns a dog/s it’s not as easy as just bringing home a
new dog and thinking it will run smoothly. Below are some helpful tips to
introduce a rescue dog into the family
Make sure you are
ready for another dog.
Being ready finically is a necessity before
bring in another dog. Since you have to pay for the dog and everything that
comes with the dog.
Make sure resident dog/s are already established.
It can take up to a year for a dog to fully feel at home and understand the
rules in the house.
Fix all bad habits of resident dog/s before
bringing in a new dog. Whether if it is leash pulling, excessive barking,
nipping or jumping on people the bad habit can become worse and harder to break
when a new dog is added to the mix.
The finding the
Find a dog that’s personality matches your
family. A lazy basset hound wouldn’t work well in a high active family. While a
hyper dog wouldn’t work well with a resident dog/s that is a couch potato.
Two dominant dogs will not work together because
they will be fighting for control, so one dominant and a submissive dog work
well together. However you don’t want to have a dog that will be a bully to the
other dog/s. If they are keeping a dog from you, not letting them into a room,
not letting them eat or drink then they are being a bully dog.
Some male dogs don’t do well with other male dogs.
While females usually do well together. Old dogs can become aggressive with
puppies who have high energy.
Try to meet at a neutral setting
Keep all dogs on a loose leash. Being on a loose
leash will make it easier to help control the situation, while letting the dogs
can come and go from the interaction.
Try to let them meet nose to nose first then let
them sniff each other. Some dogs do not like to have their butts sniffed.
Meeting nose to nose helps the dogs see each other and feel more comfortable.
Look for any signs of uncomfortable and
Have a half hour to an hour blocked out
Take the dogs for a together to see how they
will interact with noises and distractions.
Off the leash.
Let dogs play in a fenced in yard with room to
Let dogs figure out how to play together and who
is dominant/ submissive, some growling and biting may take place.
Be ready to jump in if things get out of hand.
Give dogs time to themselves so they can have a
break, and each gets alone time with you.
Be prepared to punish
both dogs. Do not let bad behavior slip through just because of the new dog /
new environment. Letting the dogs know who really is in charge will help keep
bad habits under control.
Finally know that
it can take up to two weeks for dogs to fully get along and work together. There
will be times like most siblings when the dogs will dislike each other just let
them figure it out and be ready to step in.
Once I found out I was pregnant I knew I wanted to breastfeed my child. When my son came into the world on February 1st 2019, it was through an emergency caesarean section. So I could not feed my son right away like I originally wanted to do. After, an hour in the post operation room I was finally able to nurse him for the first time. It hurts the first time he latched on, his latch was not right because he wasn’t opening his mouth wide enough. Since his latch was not wide enough it caused my nipples to bruise and bleed, it was very painful in a sensitive the slightest touch made me want to cry.
Another problem we had was my son
was constantly spitting up from having amniotic fluid in his lungs. Since he
was a caesarean baby he was unable to get the amniotic fluid out of his lungs,
which babies born vaginally do during the birthing process. He spitting up
breastmilk with the amniotic fluid, so I had to feed him more often.
Like every newborn my son was
cluster feeding his first few nights. Anyone who has breastfed a cluster feeding
baby knows how exhausting and draining it is. My son was eating every half hour
for 10 minutes each time. So while trying to recover from having a major surgery
(caesarean section) I was also feeding a newborn all day and night with zero
I thought about quitting in those
early days, we even got formula from the hospital. One thing my husband and I
did in the beginning was give our son a pacifier. You are not supposed to give
a breastfeeding baby a pacifier or bottles for at least 3 weeks so they do not
get confused since the sucking is very different. However, the pacifier actually
helped our son learn to open his mouth wider making his latch a lot better.
The Struggle Is Real.
I had so many fears in the
beginning, on whether or not my milk would come in or if I can produce enough.
I had friends and family members who were unable to breastfeed, those who were
able to only last a few weeks because of lack of supply. When my milked came in
I felt so much relief, I even had an over supple in the beginning.
In had several clogged ducts, this terrified
me because clogged ducts can lead to mastitis. For anyone who doesn’t know what
that is, it occurs when a blocked duct doesn’t clear, it causes swelling and
inflammation. On top of having a tender inflamed breast, you can become achy,
feverish and develop flu like systems. I was able remove the clogs before they
turned into mastitis, through heating pads, messaging, and different
When my son was 5 months old he got
thrush. For anyone who doesn’t know what that is, its white, slightly raised
bumps in your mouth. It is an infection in which the fungus candida albicans
accumulates in the mouth, aka a yeast infect in your mouth. I did research when
I first started to breastfeed, so I knew what to look out for. Once I saw the
first signs on his tongue I got him into the doctor as quickly as possible. It took
3 dose of medicine a day and two weeks to fully clear up.
My son was born 6 pounds 10 ounce,
he was little. He has been in the lower percentile for his weight since he has
been born never getting about the 10th percentile. I seen other
babies his age or younger than him gaining weight so rapidly, while my son was
gaining but always remaining small. He was in 0 to 3 size clothes until he was
6 months old. I was worried my son wasn’t eating enough. After doing research,
talking to other mothers, and my son’s doctor I came to realize my son is
gaining fine he is just going to be smaller. As long as he doesn’t still seem
hungry after he nurses I know he’s getting enough milk.
My husband has always been supportive. He left completely up to me on whether or not we breastfed. He does like how it saves us money, and how it helps with keeping him from getting sick. He doesn’t like how when I have to feed my son with other around us I usually go off to a different room to feed our son (I am personally not comfortable breastfeeding in front of others and my son likes to play peek-a-boo with the cover). Me leaving to go feed our son hinders what is going on and creates a bit of awkwardness. Breastfeeding has made it harder for my husband to form a bond with our son because he couldn’t feed him (he did form a bond it just took a little longer).
In my husband family my son is the
only one to ever be breastfed. They do not understand how breastfed babies
differ from formula fed babies. Breast fed babies differ by feedings are a lot faster,
pooping is different, they do not need water as early, they don’t get sick as
easily, their weight is different and they do not sleep as well. I have tried to explain how it is different,
but since they have never experienced it before they do not understand. Sometimes
they feel like they know what is best for him and want us to switch him to
formula so fatten him up. However, as an exclusively breastfed baby he hardly
takes a bottle and doesn’t like to eat as much as formula fed babies.
I have lost friends over
breastfeeding because they were unable to breastfeed (look at mom experience guilt
blog for more details). However, I have also become closer to friends through
my breastfeeding journey.
I know people will come in go and not like
things or become jealous of what others do when it comes to parenting, however
breastfeeding is something that is very personal to me.
Would I do it again?
Yes I would defiantly do it all
again. My first breastfeeding experience is starting to wind down with the
beginning stages of weening off. I will breastfeed all of my future children,
long as I am able to.
Whenever a person feels offended by
a parent’s choice to do something or not do something, they always say “well I was
_____ and turned out fine” or “I did _____ with my children and they turned out
fine”. They believe that whatever they did was/is the best way for a child to
I absolutely hate when people say
this to me. They are questioning my parenting choices, thinking I am doing
something wrong. Saying “well I was _____ and turned out fine” or “I did _____
with my children and they turned out fine” makes me judged and that I am
failing as a mother. However I know I am a good mother and I make the best
decision for my son.
There is not an exact way to raise
a child, every parent is going to raise their child in their own way. If we all
raised them the same than everyone will think and act the same way. It is
alright for parent’s to do something different than what their parents did
before them, than their friends and family.
Times are changing just because
something worked for one child or family doesn’t mean it work for someone else.
New technology and safety guidelines are
changing the way parents are making decisions for children. The new safety
guidelines, recalls, and new technology are made to help parents make smart and
safe choices for our children, they wouldn’t be made if there wasn’t a reason
for them to be made. Such guidelines as no cow’s milk until closer to one or
the no solid food for newborn, are given that most people follow. However, some
people give food early to a baby before the 4 to 6 months guideline and their
baby turned out fine. While other babies got busted gut from having food to
I am a firm believer in doing
research before I make any major parenting decision. I made the decision to not
want to use a bumbo seat for my son after doing research on them. The bumbo
seat does not allow a child to sit naturally in the chair, and has the childs
is wedged deep in the seat with his legs higher than the pelvis. Instead of the
bumbo chair I used a boppy pillow to help my son learn to sit. Whenever I
mention this to people I always got the “My family used the bumbo chair and
they are all fine”. This is your child
and your decision to use, however it is my decision to not do so.
The “well I was _____ and turned
out fine” or “I did _____ with my children and they turned out fine” line is
always going to be used because people thing they know better than you do, for
what is best for a child. However, new technology and safety guidelines are
changing things. No child is the same so, no child will be raise the same.
When a mom first gets pregnant it
can be over whelming seeing all things a baby needs. Then once you acquire everything
that a baby needs, it takes over your home. Babies come with a lot of stuff,
but it doesn’t have to over whelm you. Below are a set of tips to help a
minimalist mom with a baby not to get over whelmed.
Stick to the list
When you are out shopping for the
baby have a list of stuff you need for the baby. Stick to the list if you need
diapers and baby food, just get diapers and baby food. You don’t need to look
at baby clothes and toys if the baby doesn’t need them. When you do find something
that the baby needs that wasn’t on the list. Make sure it’s actually something
the baby needs, not something you think the baby needs.
Plan a head and switch items out.
Babies go through many stages. Knowing
what a baby needs for each stage, can help you plan ahead. Planning a head on
what will go where can help maximize the space. With each stage a baby needs
different items. They need swings and bouncers during the first few months, entertainment
centers, walkers and highchairs once they get more mobile. Switching out what a
baby needs for each stage of development, can help keep clutter from happening
with the unused baby items.
Not to many clothes
Baby clothes may be tiny, however
when you get an abundance of clothes they can take up a lot of space. Having
enough clothes for two or three weeks, that you can mismatch outfits will save space and still give you plenty of choices for your little one to wear.
Babies outgrow clothes very quickly, having several different sizes in a small
amount is more practical than have a bunch of clothes in one size and having to
find more space for a bunch of clothing in the next size.
When babies need a lot of items
that take up space, you can get smaller items or multipurpose items. Here is
items that can be minimized/have multipurpose use.
Changing pad – Instead of getting a changing table that you can only use in one space, get a changing pad that you can move room to room making diaper changes easier. Once they start rolling around you can move the mat to the floor and keeping changes constant.
Pack in plays all in one – a pack and play is a very useful baby item for on the go, and offers a place for the baby to sleep outside of the crib. Some pack in plays also come with accessories such as changing pad, diaper storage and bounces. By having the added on accessories it helps safe space by having it all in one place, and it can grow with the baby by take accessories off.
Push walkers– Walkers help babies learn to walk. A regular walker has a tray and a seat that you put the baby on, they then push off the ground to move. Compared to a push walker that has activities for the baby on one side and a bar for the baby to hold on to and push on to learn to walk. A push walker is more space friendly than a regular walker and also provides entertainment
Play yard– a play yard is very convent to help keep babies in a safe area. They can be broken up to also be gates to keep babies on the move safe and confined. Compared to traditional gates that fall down easily or have to be screwed into the walls, a play yard is easier and multipurpose.
Being a minimalist mom has helped me from being
over whelmed with my sons stuff while still making sure he has what he needs.
When people look on social media they only see a snippet of your life. They only see the parts that you share with them. The smiling cuddly baby, the ever adoring husband, and the obedient puppy is all people see of my life. However, like everyone else I have rough days with my family.
My son isn’t even a year old yet, but that doesn’t mean every day is a picnic. My son is a very clingy momma’s boy, so he always wants my attention 24/7 with no break. This is very draining on me both mentally and physically, at times I don’t want to have a baby climbing all over me. Late nights of teething and constant nursing, can make for hard days of praying for long naps. But as any parent knows it doesn’t work that way. He is a great mostly happy baby with his moments of fits. I know it will only get worse as he gets older and when I have more kids. However ever hard moment will come with many more happy moments
Anyone in a relationship knows it is not always “a walk in the park”. Ever healthy relationship has disagreements and rough patches. With pressure of kids, work, finances, family, and the every day to day can add stress to a marriage. Our spouses become our outlet for our frustrations in our life. In my marriage my husband is my sounding board. I am a very vocal person on my emotions, and I hate letting things sit and I need it to be fix as soon as possible. While my husband is someone who likes to think things over and then just let it go. The way we argue is different, but it works, it is very hot and cold.
Being a dog parent can be just as
challenging as being a parent to a child. Dogs become part of the family. Any
good pet owner gets very invested in our pets. They have good and bad days just
like us. They get sick, depressed or hyper, sometimes they don’t listen, they destroy
stuff and sometimes they are well behaved. My Austrian Shepard will be two at
the end of the year, she is still a puppy and has her moments when she is so
wind up that it takes a while to calm her down. I wish most das she will lose
her voice box, because the barking is never ending. She is also very obsess with my son loves to
share her toys and food with him. Watching to make sure she isn’t giving him
dog food, or having to yell at her for constantly wanting to like his face can
become very repetitive.
Some days are just hard to be a parent and be
in a relationship. When we share our lives people don’t see the hardships. They
believe your life is struggle free not realizing it is hard for you at time as
well. No One has a perfect day every
day. No family is perfect, we all have our hard times.
When I was eighteen years old I ate
a small can of cashews. The next day I woke up with my lips triple their size,
eyes swollen, sharp pain in my throat, and hard to breath. I developed an anaphylaxis
allergy to cashews and related tree nuts and related fruit. My food allergy
includes: cashews, pistachio, pecan, mangos, and papaya. I avoid all other tree
nuts and tropical fruit because of how closely they are related to my allergy
foods, they can even send me into minor allergy attacks. I CAN EAT PEANUTS
BECAUSE IT IS NOT A TREE NUT IT IS MORE CLOSELY RELATED TO BEANS THAN TREE
Ever since my allergy attack when I
was eighteen, I have to watch what I eat. The fear of cross-contamination in
foods have become my every day. I am always checking the back of products for “may
contain tree nuts”. It is not just food I have to watch for, Procter &
Gamble uses tree nut oils in their products, some medications use tree nut oils
or mango flavoring. I have carried epiPens until they got too expensive with a monopoly
on them $300 to $650 for a pack of two, which has to be replaced every few
months. It became easier to just avoid my allergen than have to pay for new
epiPens. I can take benadryl with minor reactions.
When I first started dating my now
husband a few months after my allergy attack, one of the first things I mentioned
was my food allergy. If he wanted to be intimate with me, he had to be careful
on what he ate around me. He chose to give up tree nuts so not to risk me
having an allergic reaction.
When my son was starting to get to
the point of eating purees, I had to look at his baby food to make sure that it
doesn’t have mango in it. I have to be selective on what he eats because he is exclusively
breastfed and can cross-contaminate to me, making me break out in hives. When
he gets older and no longer breastfeed he will be introduced to mango. Tree nuts would have to be introduced to him
away from me because even the dust makes me react.
When I go out to gatherings with
friends and family I am always asked if I can eat something or not. It gets old
quickly always having to repeat what I can and can’t eat. I still have family
who cooks with tree nuts so I am always checking with them on what they put in
some stuff like cookies, they get annoyed by it every time. Living with a food
allergy isn’t easy and can affect so many people in my life.
Pets are a big part of people’s lives. The love an owner develops
for a pet is strong, they become part of the family. Many people even prefer
their dog’s or cat’s company over other people. So when it comes to making sure
that our pets are comfortable is very important to us.
One thing that most people never think about when they get pregnant is preparing their dog for the new arrival. Our pets take time to adjust to things like we humans do. Babies come with a lot of stuff and noises. Giving your dog time to react to all the new changes before your new arrival comes into their space, will have a better outcome than just “ripping the band aid off” by bring the baby in. By letting your dog adjust to everything, you can keep your dog from lashing out at your baby, keeping the dog from becoming depressed, or the dog getting overly jealous.
When my husband and I first found out we were expecting our son we just got an Australian Sheppard a few months prior to finding out. She quickly became very spoiled, with a lot of toys and attention. We lucked out with her because she is very smart, she was pottied trained in only a few day of having her. However like most Aussies she is also very stubborn with picking up tricks she only wanted to learn sit, shake and lay down. Once we found out about our bundle of joy coming I started to look into what will help my spoiled Aussie expect my son. Here is what we did
Talk to your vet
Luckily for us we already had a vet appointment scheduled
for our dog not long after we found out. We made sure she was updated on all
shots and had no fleas or worms. We asked our vet what she recommended to get
ready our dog ready. Some of the below listed is what she recommended.
Get baby’s stuff and set it up slowly over the 9 months.
The number one thing
our vet recommended is getting the baby stuff set up over 9 months instead of
all at once. We set up the crib in the baby’s room first, then slowly set
everything else up such as a swing and pack and plays. By slowly introducing things
to her it helped her learn not to be afraid of them and to get use to them.
Baby Noises and Grabbing
We all know babies make a ton of noises from crying to babbling to just full on screaming. Plus they also love to pull on things like hair and anything they can grab easily. We started to play baby sounds and very gently pulling on our dog to start getting her use to it. She was confused with the noises at first but adopted over time to the point that it didn’t make her confused or anxious her. The pulling did not phase her but helped her understand what to expect. Of course we don’t let our baby pull on our dog but he does try to grab at her a lot. I can trust to know she wont bite him if he gets a pull on her fur.
Pets Safe Space and Dog Free Zones
Like humans dogs need to have their alone time and a space
to have it. Our dog uses her air kennel
as her place she goes to when she is overwhelmed and needs some alone time.
Having dog free zones are just as important as have a space for your dog. We have
a play yard we set up when we want a dog free space and use pack and plays for
safe places for baby to play away from the dog.
Play Time and Training
Your pet goes from having all the attention on them, to having to split the time, or even getting hardly anytime on them once the baby comes. Our dog is still a hyperactive puppy who needs to have time and attention to run around. My husband and I trade time out with the baby and the puppy, making sure they get time with both of us. When we are with our dog we try challenging her to help get energy out by working on training such as leave it command, stay and come command. Having playtime as a whole family is important, by showing both the dog and baby to be gentle with each other.
Making sure your dog feels at home and comfortable will make running your home easier. Our pets are family to us, preparing them for the new arrival is just as important as preparing ourselves