My Breastfeeding Journey

The beginning

Once I found out I was pregnant I knew I wanted to breastfeed my child. When my son came into the world on February 1st 2019, it was through an emergency caesarean section. So I could not feed my son right away like I originally wanted to do. After, an hour in the post operation room I was finally able to nurse him for the first time. It hurts the first time he latched on, his latch was not right because he wasn’t opening his mouth wide enough. Since his latch was not wide enough it caused my nipples to bruise and bleed, it was very painful in a sensitive the slightest touch made me want to cry.

Another problem we had was my son was constantly spitting up from having amniotic fluid in his lungs. Since he was a caesarean baby he was unable to get the amniotic fluid out of his lungs, which babies born vaginally do during the birthing process. He spitting up breastmilk with the amniotic fluid, so I had to feed him more often.

Like every newborn my son was cluster feeding his first few nights. Anyone who has breastfed a cluster feeding baby knows how exhausting and draining it is. My son was eating every half hour for 10 minutes each time. So while trying to recover from having a major surgery (caesarean section) I was also feeding a newborn all day and night with zero sleep.   

I thought about quitting in those early days, we even got formula from the hospital. One thing my husband and I did in the beginning was give our son a pacifier. You are not supposed to give a breastfeeding baby a pacifier or bottles for at least 3 weeks so they do not get confused since the sucking is very different. However, the pacifier actually helped our son learn to open his mouth wider making his latch a lot better.

The Struggle Is Real.

I had so many fears in the beginning, on whether or not my milk would come in or if I can produce enough. I had friends and family members who were unable to breastfeed, those who were able to only last a few weeks because of lack of supply. When my milked came in I felt so much relief, I even had an over supple in the beginning.

In had several clogged ducts, this terrified me because clogged ducts can lead to mastitis. For anyone who doesn’t know what that is, it occurs when a blocked duct doesn’t clear, it causes swelling and inflammation. On top of having a tender inflamed breast, you can become achy, feverish and develop flu like systems. I was able remove the clogs before they turned into mastitis, through heating pads, messaging, and different breastfeeding positions.

When my son was 5 months old he got thrush. For anyone who doesn’t know what that is, its white, slightly raised bumps in your mouth. It is an infection in which the fungus candida albicans accumulates in the mouth, aka a yeast infect in your mouth. I did research when I first started to breastfeed, so I knew what to look out for. Once I saw the first signs on his tongue I got him into the doctor as quickly as possible. It took 3 dose of medicine a day and two weeks to fully clear up.

My son was born 6 pounds 10 ounce, he was little. He has been in the lower percentile for his weight since he has been born never getting about the 10th percentile. I seen other babies his age or younger than him gaining weight so rapidly, while my son was gaining but always remaining small. He was in 0 to 3 size clothes until he was 6 months old. I was worried my son wasn’t eating enough. After doing research, talking to other mothers, and my son’s doctor I came to realize my son is gaining fine he is just going to be smaller. As long as he doesn’t still seem hungry after he nurses I know he’s getting enough milk.

The Reactions

My husband has always been supportive. He left completely up to me on whether or not we breastfed. He does like how it saves us money, and how it helps with keeping him from getting sick.  He doesn’t like how when I have to feed my son with other around us I usually go off to a different room to feed our son (I am personally not comfortable breastfeeding in front of others and my son likes to play peek-a-boo with the cover). Me leaving to go feed our son hinders what is going on and creates a bit of awkwardness. Breastfeeding has made it harder for my husband to form a bond with our son because he couldn’t feed him (he did form a bond it just took a little longer).

In my husband family my son is the only one to ever be breastfed. They do not understand how breastfed babies differ from formula fed babies. Breast fed babies differ by feedings are a lot faster, pooping is different, they do not need water as early, they don’t get sick as easily, their weight is different and they do not sleep as well.  I have tried to explain how it is different, but since they have never experienced it before they do not understand. Sometimes they feel like they know what is best for him and want us to switch him to formula so fatten him up. However, as an exclusively breastfed baby he hardly takes a bottle and doesn’t like to eat as much as formula fed babies.

I have lost friends over breastfeeding because they were unable to breastfeed (look at mom experience guilt blog for more details). However, I have also become closer to friends through my breastfeeding journey.

 I know people will come in go and not like things or become jealous of what others do when it comes to parenting, however breastfeeding is something that is very personal to me.

Would I do it again?

Yes I would defiantly do it all again. My first breastfeeding experience is starting to wind down with the beginning stages of weening off. I will breastfeed all of my future children, long as I am able to.

Thank you for reading this very personal blog

Tips For Being a Minimalist Mom With a Baby

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When a mom first gets pregnant it can be over whelming seeing all things a baby needs. Then once you acquire everything that a baby needs, it takes over your home. Babies come with a lot of stuff, but it doesn’t have to over whelm you. Below are a set of tips to help a minimalist mom with a baby not to get over whelmed.

Stick to the list

When you are out shopping for the baby have a list of stuff you need for the baby. Stick to the list if you need diapers and baby food, just get diapers and baby food. You don’t need to look at baby clothes and toys if the baby doesn’t need them. When you do find something that the baby needs that wasn’t on the list. Make sure it’s actually something the baby needs, not something you think the baby needs.

Plan a head and switch items out.

Babies go through many stages. Knowing what a baby needs for each stage, can help you plan ahead. Planning a head on what will go where can help maximize the space. With each stage a baby needs different items. They need swings and bouncers during the first few months, entertainment centers, walkers and highchairs once they get more mobile. Switching out what a baby needs for each stage of development, can help keep clutter from happening with the unused baby items.  

Not to many clothes

Baby clothes may be tiny, however when you get an abundance of clothes they can take up a lot of space. Having enough clothes for two or three weeks, that you can mismatch outfits will save space and still give you plenty of choices for your little one to wear. Babies outgrow clothes very quickly, having several different sizes in a small amount is more practical than have a bunch of clothes in one size and having to find more space for a bunch of clothing in the next size.

Baby items

When babies need a lot of items that take up space, you can get smaller items or multipurpose items. Here is items that can be minimized/have multipurpose use.

  • Changing pad – Instead of getting a changing table that you can only use in one space, get a changing pad that you can move room to room making diaper changes easier. Once they start rolling around you can move the mat to the floor and keeping changes constant.
  • Pack in plays all in one – a pack and play is a very useful baby item for on the go, and offers a place for the baby to sleep outside of the crib.  Some pack in plays also come with accessories such as changing pad, diaper storage and bounces. By having the added on accessories it helps safe space by having it all in one place, and it can grow with the baby by take accessories off.
  • Push walkers– Walkers help babies learn to walk. A regular walker has a tray and a seat that you put the baby on, they then push off the ground to move. Compared to a push walker that has activities for the baby on one side and a bar for the baby to hold on to and push on to learn to walk. A push walker is more space friendly than a regular walker and also provides entertainment
  • Play yard– a play yard is very convent to help keep babies in a safe area. They can be broken up to also be gates to keep babies on the move safe and confined. Compared to traditional gates that fall down easily or have to be screwed into the walls, a play yard is easier and multipurpose.

Being a minimalist mom has helped me from being over whelmed with my sons stuff while still making sure he has what he needs.   

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